Being a mother has been the greatest thing in my life , it has been a adventure that I would do over and over through eternity if I could . I have three of the most amazing children , of course I know every mother who truly loves her children say this . However I ,as much as I love my children , even more then myself I am still human . There are days when I feel so inadequate and like they was just born and that fear of not knowing what to do overwhelms me ever so briefly . So that being said , with teens I have learnt to not stay in that moment of complete bewilderment . But to look up and pray silently and sometimes just wing it . There are times when I have to back track and ask them to forgive me or admit I don't know what to do but the one thing I can always do is pray . I am ever grateful for my Heavenly Father he is my guide and my comfort .
As I look back over raising my sweet children as they were babies , toddlers and young children I find myself praying more now then I did then . Teens are such a crucial age and at a time when they really began blooming in their personalities , wants , wishes and dreams become evident. Where you really begin to see what kind of example as parents , as a child of God , as a person you have been in front of them all their lives . Oh and this is so scary . What if they see my humanity or my mistakes and become those things rather then the good through God I have done or taught them . But the truth is they see every moment we as humans mess up but they also see us get up and try again , never give up , and a determination to become better through our mistakes . When we fail as parents our children must see that when we fall we don't stay down but rise above these things and try again and again , as many times as it takes . As many times as it takes to allow our mistakes to change us for the better and they become less and less until we have overcame our weaknesses . Teaching our children we are all born sinners in need of a great saviour . Some things take time to overcome . Teaching your child is not enough . You must be an example of what you are teaching otherwise you are just words in your parenting and not and example of action in your parenting . I still don't know how to parent but I serve a God who has all the answers , I feel that I am a bit wiser now then when my firstborn came . But I still have so much more to learn about so many things . So everyday is a learning curve .
All of that being said some days I want to go on strike and see if they have really paid attention to the things which I have tried to show them and teach them . Why has what I have said or the things I have tried to be an example in not setting in ? But everyone keeps telling me "o they that's just how teens are " . I guess what I am trying to say is parents we all get frustrated and feel that surge of aggravation well up within us . The trick is to recover and keep on moving forward . My greatest hope as a parent is that when my precious babies grow up and leave my home , in spite of all the ups and downs the seeds that have been planted will have taken deep,root and start to fully bud then bloom once they are in full blown adulthood . I want to be able to say I miss them and be sad because they are all grown up but at the same time have no regrets because I as a human have done all I could for them by example and by teaching them by the guidance of God and others . This is what I strive for daily and work towards. In this goal only by much prayer and help of others along with example I know one day I will be able to look back with no regrets and see them flourish .
As parents perfection is not the goal , it is doing all we can under Gods direction and the council of others to.be the best parents we can be . Our love for our children is what is perfect . And when they feel that love they can grow knowing anything is possible . As long as they feel our unconditional love for them and being there for them in spite of what life brings that is the most important thing in raising our children . After that teaching them and being an example completes the whole plan in parenting . Most importantly showing them how to put God first and having a personal relationship with Him. Putting God at the Center of our lives as parents gives children the complete guide on how to live productive , healthy and successful lives .
As I look back over raising my sweet children as they were babies , toddlers and young children I find myself praying more now then I did then . Teens are such a crucial age and at a time when they really began blooming in their personalities , wants , wishes and dreams become evident. Where you really begin to see what kind of example as parents , as a child of God , as a person you have been in front of them all their lives . Oh and this is so scary . What if they see my humanity or my mistakes and become those things rather then the good through God I have done or taught them . But the truth is they see every moment we as humans mess up but they also see us get up and try again , never give up , and a determination to become better through our mistakes . When we fail as parents our children must see that when we fall we don't stay down but rise above these things and try again and again , as many times as it takes . As many times as it takes to allow our mistakes to change us for the better and they become less and less until we have overcame our weaknesses . Teaching our children we are all born sinners in need of a great saviour . Some things take time to overcome . Teaching your child is not enough . You must be an example of what you are teaching otherwise you are just words in your parenting and not and example of action in your parenting . I still don't know how to parent but I serve a God who has all the answers , I feel that I am a bit wiser now then when my firstborn came . But I still have so much more to learn about so many things . So everyday is a learning curve .
All of that being said some days I want to go on strike and see if they have really paid attention to the things which I have tried to show them and teach them . Why has what I have said or the things I have tried to be an example in not setting in ? But everyone keeps telling me "o they that's just how teens are " . I guess what I am trying to say is parents we all get frustrated and feel that surge of aggravation well up within us . The trick is to recover and keep on moving forward . My greatest hope as a parent is that when my precious babies grow up and leave my home , in spite of all the ups and downs the seeds that have been planted will have taken deep,root and start to fully bud then bloom once they are in full blown adulthood . I want to be able to say I miss them and be sad because they are all grown up but at the same time have no regrets because I as a human have done all I could for them by example and by teaching them by the guidance of God and others . This is what I strive for daily and work towards. In this goal only by much prayer and help of others along with example I know one day I will be able to look back with no regrets and see them flourish .
As parents perfection is not the goal , it is doing all we can under Gods direction and the council of others to.be the best parents we can be . Our love for our children is what is perfect . And when they feel that love they can grow knowing anything is possible . As long as they feel our unconditional love for them and being there for them in spite of what life brings that is the most important thing in raising our children . After that teaching them and being an example completes the whole plan in parenting . Most importantly showing them how to put God first and having a personal relationship with Him. Putting God at the Center of our lives as parents gives children the complete guide on how to live productive , healthy and successful lives .
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